Today’s author we are interviewing, is Marci Fair, a career women and mother of four children. Marci Fair shares her decades of insight in an enlightening way that weaves in quotes from her children along with 100+ practical, guilt-free parenting tips for the challenges working mothers face. Marci shows how mothers can live imperfectly on purpose. She inspires them to determine what really matters the most for themselves and their families, and then to focus on what lasts beyond childhood.
Marci, how would you describe your book to someone who has not yet read it?
TILT was written out of the difficult struggles and unexpected answers that I have found on my journey through the TILT of life, work, and motherhood. The wisdom of over 80 other working mothers in my book also demonstrates how moms can grow through their journeys to find happiness and success along the way. Balance is impossible; I teach how to TILT instead.
Is there a message in your book that you want your readers to grasp?
There are many significant messages in TILT, but if I had to pick the most important, it would be to encourage mothers to continue to dream and set goals for their lives. I believe that by continuing to pursue our dreams, as we help their children reach for theirs, sets a very important parenting leadership example. Through TILT, I share how to choose, in the nucleus of our families, to set the example by shining our own light, so we can love, guide, and empower those little lights we brought into this world.
What inspired you to start writing?
As a working mom of four children, I have lived the juggles, the struggles and the heartache of guilt in trying to pursue professional accomplishments, as well as raise our children well. Over time I found solutions that have helped our children find their own success and have brought happiness to myself. I shared them with women around me, who found them to be unique, easy to do and satisfying for themselves. As I walked my own motherhood journey, I realized that I needed to share the humor, the insight and ultimately the love and strength that a thoughtful motherhood can bring.
How did you get the idea for this book?
Unknowingly at the time, I actually started writing TILT in July of 1996 – the first time I wrote down a quote from our oldest child. He was three at the time, and he made a funny kid statement that I wanted to remember. If I did not write them down immediately, (which is still true today) I would forget them.
That began the chronicling of the funny and heartfelt moments of my motherhood journey. Eventually I began to realize that our little ones had some serious wisdom to share; their musings could actually become the heartfelt answers to some of my soul-searching questions. Their quotes are actually the basis that TILT was built on.
There are over 70 of their quotes woven throughout the book, to help relay the messages of an enriching motherhood. I have learned that with careful insight, our biggest challenges can often become our greatest learning opportunities.
Does your book have any underlying theme, message, or moral?
The message of TILT is to encourage mothers to continue to dream and set goals for their lives. I believe that by continuing to pursue our dreams, as we help their children reach for theirs, sets a very important parenting leadership example. We teach our children that just as we are here to help them find the path to fulfill their own missions and life purpose, we need to fulfill ours as well.
Marci, please give us an excerpted quote from your favorite review of this book:
“Finally a book for professional women who have a heart for mothering. Marci doesn’t write to convince us we’ve made the right decision. She writes to help us find peace on the path we’ve chosen, recognizing “balance” is a myth. Her only agenda is to help us further our professional goals while being better mothers, with specific examples and chapter checklists that give us concrete steps to find the perfect “TILT” for today andtomorrow.”
Bonnie M. Rich
Assistant Director, Georgia State University College of Law Tax Clinic
If Oprah invited you onto her show to talk about your book, what would the theme of the show be?
“Working Moms Do Not Have To Be Guilty-Moms – Learn How To TILT Instead” or
“How to live a TILT-ed life with success for you and your children!”
Thinking way back to the beginning, what’s the most important thing you have learned as a writer from then to now?
Be brave. Follow your heart. Ask a lot of questions of people who are smarter than you. Don’t just dream about it – take action. Nothing will happen unless you take (the right) action.
Considering a book from the first word you write to the moment you see it on a bookstore shelf, what’s your favorite part of the process? What’s your least favorite?
My least favorite parts about writing the book are the deep edits and total reconstruction during that process. It is hard to re-write and make everything flow well together when it has been moved around so much.
I did enjoy creating all the different “parts” of TILT. I worked very hard to make it interesting for the reader, so I have
- Mom Quizzes at the beginning of every chapter
- Graphics throughout the book to give a visual explanation of an important point
- Our children’s quotes woven throughout where they support the material
- Wonderful wisdom from over 80 other women who wanted to help mothers
- Checklists at the end of every chapter for specific, real life ideas that women
can use today if they need more of the solution in their lives.
Ultimately my favorite part of the book process was holding the first copy of it in my hands!
What scene or bit of dialogue in the book are you most proud of, and why?
The opening piece, “Why You – and I – Need to Read This Book” is pretty powerful and designed to speak to the heart of my reader. I want her to know that we are on the same page, with the humor and the challenges, and that TILT will give her real solutions.
The other piece “Closing Thoughts” was also written with great passion to help my reader. It comes straight from my core, to support them in believing that “our purpose in in our journey,” so make your journey count.
If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything about your book?
I am thankful to tell you that no – I would not change a thing. Even though it has been edited for over three years by many people, I am sure it could still be improved upon and written better here and there. But I have poured my heart and soul into the messages TILT shares, and I hope that the reader sees my desire for them to live a thoughtful, fulfilling life.
How did you get published? Please share your own personal journey.
I researched. Then I researched. Then I researched some more. Ultimately, a friend on twitter recommended CreateSpace for Print-on-Demand, and they have been wonderful to work with.
What general advice do you have for other writers?
Do not give up on your dream!!! It will be hard, it will be challenging, but if you believe that your message should be shared, this is the best time in the publishing world for you to have the opportunity to share it.
What is the best part of being a writer?
The best part of being a writer is knowing that my book will one of a few things that will live beyond me. I am very hopeful that I will accomplish my goal with it – to help 10,000 moms and raise $10,000 for our children’s charity: Kares 4 Kids www.kares4kids.com.
Once TILT has done that, I will know that I have really touched the lives of 10,000 women for the better and also helped thousands of children through Kares 4 Kids. Most importantly, I did it while honoring the family that I love and adore.
What’s the most challenging part of being a writer for you?
The most challenging part about being a writer is the editing process, to be sure that I have caught my grammar, punctuation, and flow mistakes. Beyond creating the book, the next most challenging part is figuring out the best methods to launch it and share it with the world.
Where’s the one place in the world you’d like to visit? Italy.
What is your favorite book?
I am an avid reader, so it is difficult to say that I only have one favorite book. I love John Maxwell’s books for the excellent leadership and life wisdom. I love Andy Andrew’s books “The Noticer & The Noticer Returns” for their soul-searching wisdom. I love Dan Zadra’s “5” for it’s ability to help you define where you will be in your life in 5 years. I love Dave Ramsey’s books for their financial intelligence, and I love Gary Keller and Jay Papasan’s book “The One Thing” for its amazing ability to help you simply “line up the domino’s” in your life to achieve uncommon success. There are more….
How would a close friend describe you?
A close friend would describe me as a mom who intensely loves her family, as a wife who is very thankful to live her life with her soul mate, as a big picture thinker who purposefully, if imperfectly, thoroughly lives each of the 100 years she will hopefully be blessed with.
Where can people learn more about your writing?
What is the ONE thing that brought you more readers?
The one thing that I have done that has brought me more readers has been to host workshops in my local marketplace on my subject matter – helping working moms.
What’s one thing that your readers would be surprised to know about
That I secretly wish I had a whole weekend to sit on the sofa and veg out. Well, maybe for half a day. Well, I could get “antsy” after a couple of hours. Anyway, it really sounds wonderful.
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